Making love not war (Harold’s response)
A few weeks ago, my wife and I were in a conflictual situation. We just didn’t see eye to eye on an issue pertaining to one of our children. And, it was emotionally disturbing from which you could feel the relational strain. There was no sense that we didn’t love each other. And, it was clear that we both love our child in the center of the conflict. But, the situation was just taking a toll on our feeling of closeness.
In the midst of this conflict, I took a somewhat vulnerable position with my wife by asking to make love. Why? Because for us, the act of making love isn’t just about sex (the physical). It is also about emotional and spiritual connection. While I certainly enjoy the physical aspect of it, at this point in the conflict I needed the spiritual and emotional connection.
Sometimes, we husbands have a bad (well-earned) reputation for being most interested in the physical aspect of love-making. I would suggest, however, that if we can see sex as a spiritual-emotional bridge that our love-making will be enriched and our sense of unity will be enhanced. This will help us to stand as a unified front when Satan is trying to use those darts to place a wedge between you and your spouse. Let’s learn to make love with our spouse and war with Satan.